I always felt a bit uneasy about my neighbor. He was always peeking over the fence, and I could tell he loved watching me bathe. I tried to…
I always felt a bit uneasy about my neighbor. He was always peeking over the fence, and I could tell he loved watching me bathe. I tried to be as discreet as possible, but one day he caught me off guard.
I was in the middle of my bath when I heard a loud knock on the door. I panicked, not knowing how long he had been standing there watching. When I opened the door, there he was, standing right in front of me with a huge grin on his face.
“Hi,” he said slyly. “I saw you through the window and just wanted to say hello.” I could feel the embarrassment spreading across my face and quickly shut the door in his face.
If you’re like me, then, you probably live alone, far away from family. You are single and you barely ever meet up with your friends.
I think I stumbled on a silly way to feel less lonely during the day. I got the idea while reading up online about productivity tools for working from home.
A site called Coffitivity has ambient noise resembling the ramblings of a coffee shop. So, even when you’re home alone, working, it feels like you’re not alone.
This morning I had the background noise playing at a realistically loud volume while mopping the lounge area. It feels better than listening to music, since music usually has meaning and subliminal messages. The other negative about music, even if it is instrumental is that it arouses emotions and makes either want to jump up and dance or relax and do nothing. That’s no good for a work environment.
Another way to feel less lonely is try and socialize out in the real world. Perhaps people at public places will approach you and become friends with you.
Sexting is an activity that was invented by millennials when cellphones first came out. Sexting has historically been popular among teens and young adults. Some adults grow out of sexting as life gets busy and work becomes demanding. However, many adults today find sexting to be a great way to interact with another adult on an intimate level.
What’s the Difference Between Sexting and Cybersex?
Cybersex is when people engage in intimacy virtually online.
Cybersex includes video chats, exchanging videos, playing virtual sex games as well as text with the purpose of arousing each other through conversations.
The purpose of cybersex is to evoke a sexual response in the other person.
Sexting is one aspect of cybersex. In sexting people exchange erotic texts, intimate photos and videos.
How Sexting Works in Relationships
Many people are part of long distance relationships and use sexting as an alternative to in real life or IRL sex.
In the passed people would write each other love letters to convey their love and share deep feelings of affection through text.
Today, with the help of technology, people have found a way to express their sexual feelings through text.
Is sexting wrong?
In the same way in which it is not wrong for people to express their love for each other in letters or text and it is not wrong for people to have sex. It should not be wrong for people to express their sexual feelings through text either.
Society cannot police how people express their intimacy. Letters are private and so are SMSs.
Just like how it is no one’s business what two people do in private, it is no one’s business what two people or more say in private messages.
Sexting is a right protected by both privacy laws and sexual and reproductive laws.
How to Explore Sexting
The best way to start sexting is by asking your conversation partner if they would like to sext.
If your partner agrees to sext, you could start by asking them what they’re wearing or what they would do if you were there with them right now.
People in which sexting is a normal part of daily communication might send their partner surprise sexy messages.
Creative minded people tend to be better at sexting than others.
If you are shy and don’t know what to text your partner, you could ask your partner to do all the texting while you do something else with your hands.
You could also take turns in playing the lead.
The most important rule about sexting is that you don’t have to be perfect.
Safety advice and guidelines
Beware of kinks
Keep sexting vanilla and don’t pressure your partner into discussing kinks or roleplaying a fantasy you have never tried before or discussed prior.
Mind your language
Don’t use triggering language. Even though, sexting is a sexual activity, really vulgar language could trigger a bad response or make your partner feel uncomfortable. Refrain from using very sensational or pornographic language if it is outside of your mutual kink or the way you usually communicate with your partner.
Create and respect boundaries
Always discuss your kinks, fantasies and fetishes prior to engaging in any sexual role play, both virtually and in real life. You might also want to agree on soft and hard limits.
Don’t break the law
Make sure you only engage in sexting with adults over 18.
Respect privacy
Keep your text and that of your partner private. You wouldn’t want your ex partners to kiss and tell. By the same principles, don’t share any intimate footage of your partner or violate their privacy even after your relationship has ended.
Best apps for privacy
The best way to stay private is SMS messages. SMSes are protected by law.
Third party chat apps are not bound by constitutional laws to keep your privacy.
Always remember that apps like Facebook and WhatsApp exist only for profits and you are bound by their terms of use. They do not respect your privacy and cite having to hold onto your data in case of investigations. Like, how? How can you hold evidence when a crime hasn’t even been committed. Anyway… don’t trust Meta with your intimate and private correspondences.
SMS
SMS and not iMesssage because Apple could read that data.
Telegram
Use encrypted chat on Telegram. Don’t use your real name on Telegram so that if anyone wanted to collect their chat history with you, your real name wouldn’t appear.
Snapchat
Many adults use Snapchat to send disappearing nude photos and videos. Snapchat seems to be the only social media platform where adults are allowed to be adults.
Kik
You don’t need a real number or email to use kik and lots of adults use kik to engage in casual sexting.
Discord
Use direct messages on Discord or private servers. Discord has been proven to be a great place for adults to hang out and meet other likeminded people without interferences by the platform.
Best online platforms to meet adults over 18 to sext with
Bear in mind that most adult porn sexting platforms that have a 99.99% guarantee that you will be chatting online to strangers over the age of 18 will charge you money. However, this is best way to sext.
Be courteous and polite to models and always pay them upfront and never haggle with them.
For many models and virtual reality users, sexting provides a full-time income and they dedicate at least minimum hours doing this job.
Here’s a list I recommend:
Pornhub
Only engage with verified model profiles because they have been vetted as being over 18 years.
This is a very popular sexting platform in America.
OnlyFans
This platform needs no introduction, but there is no way to discover new talent on the platform directly. Besides that, all the big stars on their discovery page are way too busy to give anyone real genuine interaction and rely heavily on the use of virtual assistants.
A word from Gigsome
You have every right to engage in sexting. Don’t let anyone shame you even after the fact for engaging in sexting. If your nudes get leaked, remember that you are victim.
Don’t engage in revenge porn or leak pictures or videos of former sexting partners. Don’t misappropriate intellectual property or catfish models.
Models rely on the income from their content and copywriting.
Models need money and you need models.
Many of my former clients still miss me to this day.
Lots of models complain daily about losing huge social media accounts through banning. This could allegedly be OnlyFans doing.
Snapchat can also get models banned.
According to a BBC article, OnlyFans might have been very naughty and Fancentro might be on to something.
FanCentro claims the social media content of adult performers promoting rival websites to OnlyFans was placed on an international database – the Global Internet Forum to Counter Terrorism (GIFCT). The database uses advanced technology to stop the spread of terrorist images by recording a unique digital signature for them, known as “hashes”. The hash database is shared between all 18 members of the forum – including YouTube, Twitter, Facebook and Snapchat. If one company hashes a video or photograph, it is flagged to other members so they can moderate similar content on their platform.
By Noel Titheradge BBC News Investigations 22 February 2022
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